What did you crave during pregnancy?

I craved “Aceitunas rellenas y aceitunas ‘FerránAdrià’ (Olives stuffedwith anchovy and piquillo and ‘Ferrán Adrià’ liquid olives )” from Jaleo a stylish Tapas Restaurant at The Cosmopolitan, Las Vegas..


Alas, I never got a chance to visit Jaleo during my pregnancy so my craving was never satisfied really… 😦

Another thing I craved was Paneer and Tiramisu.. Both my favorite foods even before and after the baby. Though I did not eat any Tiramisu during my pregnancy as I didn’t want to have alcohol during that time even though it would have been a tiny bit, I ate a lot of Paneer.

This post is making me hungry! While I go fix me something yummy for lunch before my baby wakes up why don’t you gals take a look at my Pinterest Cravings Board?


Gender Determination – TO DO OR NOT TO DO?

As soon as you are pregnant the thought of whether you are having a boy or a girl simply clings to your mind and stays till that baby is delivered and you actually “see” the gender! Well with modern ultrasound technology we do have a choice of knowing the sex of the baby as early as 7-8 weeks but quite surely at 12-15 weeks and ahead. The 3D/4D ultrasound also lets you kind of see what the baby is actually going to look like (features, etc).

While the doctor may say that they can be only 98% sure of the gender in most cases they are fairly accurate. (No one in the profession will ever admit to it and please dont take my word for it. I am not a doctor!

This personal decision of knowing the gender of the foetus remains in the hands of the mother and the father. While it is a personal choice for each couple, I quite liked the idea of of knowing that my baby was going to be a boy in advance. In fact I was so surprised that we could actually plan everything in the future around knowing the gender like the theme for the baby shower, the nursery, the names, clothes, other accessories like toys, bedding, burp cloths, boppy pillows, sippy cup bottles, strollers, carseats, shoes, socks,  in the correct color , style, etc.  What a relief in a country where boys and girls are so divided into blue and pink. Well there are some neutral colors you can pick from like yellow, orange , green but knowing the gender just sounded right in my head at that time. 

When I say I think it is awesome to know the gender is only because I live in the freedom loving United States of America. If I was living in India or China, I would probably be opposed to the whole idea. In my native country India, gender determination is illegal as it may lead to female foeticides and infanticides.

Long time ago I read a book about Lost Daughters of China by Karin Evans and the sorry state of girl babies being left at orphanage door steps brought tears to my eyes for days on end. If you are a part of a family that is going to frown upon a baby of whatever gender , it is better to delay knowing the gender or declaring the gender so you do not have to bear the pressure of their disappointment throughout your pregnancy. Even better is to avoid such people in your life and maintain a more positive environment around you. 

Keep in mind, be it a boy or a girl, the main aim of a parent is most certainly and in most cases the health of the mother and the baby. Everything else is secondary. Your child be it first, second, a boy or a girl, is ultimately your child. And you will love him/her and take care of him/her no matter what. And if anyone else tells you anything else even if it is your closest relative like your husband or your mother or your inlaws or your best friends, just know that they are wrong!

With that said, I would like to know if my readers found out their babies’ gender before they were born? If yes why? and If not, then why not?


Why Pregnancy takes nine long months?

One word : Patience! If you have been an impatient person throughout your life, here is a chance nature is giving you to develop patience. Pregnancy does create lot of questions and anxieties during nine months. How will the baby look like? Will it be a boy or a girl? Will everything be normal with him/her? What name to choose? And to know most of these you have to wait for nine months. Well yes, technology has changed and you get to know gender and looks from the ultrasounds. But still a woman needs patience to wait for nine long months before she can hold her baby in her arms or before she can start sleeping comfortably in her bed (or so she thinks she can do after the baby is born, but thats a talk for another time…:))

And after the baby is born , parents are very much eager to see baby reach different milestones like oh he is a month old, he is smiling now. Or she is only 3 months and she rolled on her tummy! He is walking at 6 months old or oh, she is not walking yet and her first birthday is next week. The other babies in her music/baby gym class are already running..

All the phases of a baby like  first smile,  hand and eye co-ordination, stomach roll, crawl, standing and pulling up, walking are exciting phases. But all these take time to develop. There are monthly milestones for a human baby. And as a parent you learn to be patient so your little one takes his or her own time to meet these milestones. Sometimes as a parent you look at other babies and wonder when will yours start to do the same thing. And pregnancy taught you patience and made you wise to use it since then!

This education that nature gives us can be put to use during potty training, babies’ sicknesses, messy eating habits, separation anxieties, tantrums and so on. And trust me if I have become calm enough to deal with all this and put up a smile at the end of the day then you can too! Motherhood is tough but with a little patience you understand that it is totally worth it!


Relief to the Yucky Feeling

First Trimester and Morning Sickness are sometimes synonymous. And the morning sickness may not be just in the mornings. You can feel queasy at any time of the day. Any smell can throw you off. Or a certain type of food may make you more nauseous than others. I remember when I was pregnant, I could not eat my favorite foods like pasta and chicken. Some fortunate women don’t feel this sickness at all while some may face the excessive sickness called Hyperemesis Gravidarum. There was news some months ago where the Duchess of Cambridge was rumored to have this and was hospitalized. Yes there are some extreme cases and it is better to take advise of doctors in those cases.

I did not have HG but I was still taking a prescribed medicine for Nausea in order to keep the vomiting low that enabled me to eat well. You can always take suggestions from your doctor for safe medications to help with nausea. Here are some at home tips written by my close friend and medical nutritionist / dietician Manasi Joshi to help alleviate the issue on her blog  here :


Hope these tips help with your morning sickness and your mornings are more beautiful soon!


How to choose a gynecologist?

When I was pregnant and new in town I had no clue how to look for a gynecologist.  Also my insurance limited a lot of gynecologists that I could choose from. That did not help me much but even from that small pool there was a task in front of me to make sure I chose the right practice.

Before actually looking for one, make a list of what is important to you, for example

1. Someone who has a more holistic approach and  not a pill pusher

2. Someone who is willing to honor your birthplan or someone who is able to guide you to make one and help stick to it in most circumstances

3. Someone who encourages waterbirth if you are looking for one or someone who is ok to not give you epidural or maybe someone who wants to give it to you right away

4. Someone who is rightly qualified and reliable

5. Someone who is not outright mean or if you want one then someone who is very straightforward and right to the point and sometimes mean

6. Someone who practices in a certain hospital that is close to you or reputed in your area, etc.

These are just examples of what you may or may not want from a doctor. It is not a complete list or a go to list of what you may want in one but it is a good starting point.

Once you have the list  of what you are looking for then you can go searching for one using a guideline as listed below!

1. Go through your insurance list and see who offers services under your plan

2. Then first check who are the closest to you

3. Now go to the internet and check ratings. Look for comments and reviews.

4. See if this doctor reviews tell you what you want him / her to be based on your needs listed above.

5. If not, take an appointment to just have a conversation with the practice to get a feel for it. Then make a decision. If you dont find him/her satisfactory move on. Though remember some doctors don’t take new patients if you are far too along in your pregnancy already while looking for a change. I am not sure if a gynecologist will just meet you for a conversation but you can always call and check and sometimes they wont charge you for just an introductory visit.

6. If you have friends with kids in the same town ask where they go and ask for their recommendations. If you do not know anyone in town, consider joining a club for new mommies or see if your area has meetups for new moms. Meetup.com has great resources for finding people who are going through everything you are and form an excellent support system.

Hope these tips help you find the doctor you want!

If you have any more tips please let me know and I will add them here!