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Essential Shopping List For Baby (Registry must haves)

I am posting a list of things I used as a checklist of essentials that I wanted to buy or add to registry in order to prepare for the arrival of the baby. Some things I was gifted at the baby shower before the baby was born but most other things my husband got after the baby was born. It was good to have a list ready for him so all he had to do was take the list and find the item in the store. I am not adding brands yet. I am just adding the different types of items needed. Hope this helps you make your list.

Nursery

  1. Crib
  2. (Our baby slept in the crib till 3 months of age and since then we co-sleep)

  3. Crib Mattress
  4. Changing Station/Dresser
  5. (I used the top of the dresser as changing station)

  6. Changing Pad
  7. Changing Pad Covers
  8. Crib Mobile
  9. Baby Monitor
  10. Diaper Genie
  11. (love this to keep the smell away even from the garage)

  12. Laundry Basket
  13. Crib Bedding Set
  14. Crib Mobile
  15. Nursery Decor
  16. Extra Fitted Crib Sheets
  17. Car/Travel Safety

    1. Car Seat
    2. Stroller
    3. Mirror
    4. Portable Changing Pads
    5. Diaper Bag
    6. Window Shades

    Bathing Essentials

    1. Bath Tub
    2. Baby Soap
    3. Baby Shampoo
    4. Baby Moisturizer
    5. Diaper Cream
    6. Hooded Towels
    7. Mug
    8. Pail
    9. Diapers
    10. Wipes

    Baby Clothing

    1. Onesies
    2. Pajama Sets
    3. Sleep N Plays
    4. Outfits
    5. Hats
    6. Mittens
    7. Socks
    8. Booties
    9. Sweaters
    10. Sleep Sacks
    11. Receiving Blankets
    12. Burp Cloths
    13. Bibs

    Feeding Essentials

    1. Milk Bottles
    2. Extra Nipples
    3. Bottle Warmer
    4. ( I did not end up using one)

    5. Bottle Sanitizer
    6. ( I used this extensively and was an awesome gift from a friend)

    7. Bottle Drying Rack
    8. Electric Breast Pump
    9. Milk Storage Bags
    10. Formula (just in case)
    11. Pacifier (we never ended up using)
    12. Bottle Brush
    13. Nipple Brush
    14. Boppy Pillow

    Mommy Essentials

    1. Nipple Butter/Cream
    2. Nursing Cover
    3. Nursing Pads
    4. Nursing Tops
    5. Front Button Tops
    6. Nursing Bras

    Other Nice to Haves for Baby

    1. Baby Bouncer Seat
    2. Baby Swing
    3. Baby Jumperoo
    4. Baby Floor Mat/Gym
    5. Baby Floor Mirror
    6. Baby Teethers
    7. Baby Soft Books
    8. Baby Carrier
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Gender Determination – TO DO OR NOT TO DO?

As soon as you are pregnant the thought of whether you are having a boy or a girl simply clings to your mind and stays till that baby is delivered and you actually “see” the gender! Well with modern ultrasound technology we do have a choice of knowing the sex of the baby as early as 7-8 weeks but quite surely at 12-15 weeks and ahead. The 3D/4D ultrasound also lets you kind of see what the baby is actually going to look like (features, etc).

While the doctor may say that they can be only 98% sure of the gender in most cases they are fairly accurate. (No one in the profession will ever admit to it and please dont take my word for it. I am not a doctor!

This personal decision of knowing the gender of the foetus remains in the hands of the mother and the father. While it is a personal choice for each couple, I quite liked the idea of of knowing that my baby was going to be a boy in advance. In fact I was so surprised that we could actually plan everything in the future around knowing the gender like the theme for the baby shower, the nursery, the names, clothes, other accessories like toys, bedding, burp cloths, boppy pillows, sippy cup bottles, strollers, carseats, shoes, socks,  in the correct color , style, etc.  What a relief in a country where boys and girls are so divided into blue and pink. Well there are some neutral colors you can pick from like yellow, orange , green but knowing the gender just sounded right in my head at that time. 

When I say I think it is awesome to know the gender is only because I live in the freedom loving United States of America. If I was living in India or China, I would probably be opposed to the whole idea. In my native country India, gender determination is illegal as it may lead to female foeticides and infanticides.

Long time ago I read a book about Lost Daughters of China by Karin Evans and the sorry state of girl babies being left at orphanage door steps brought tears to my eyes for days on end. If you are a part of a family that is going to frown upon a baby of whatever gender , it is better to delay knowing the gender or declaring the gender so you do not have to bear the pressure of their disappointment throughout your pregnancy. Even better is to avoid such people in your life and maintain a more positive environment around you. 

Keep in mind, be it a boy or a girl, the main aim of a parent is most certainly and in most cases the health of the mother and the baby. Everything else is secondary. Your child be it first, second, a boy or a girl, is ultimately your child. And you will love him/her and take care of him/her no matter what. And if anyone else tells you anything else even if it is your closest relative like your husband or your mother or your inlaws or your best friends, just know that they are wrong!

With that said, I would like to know if my readers found out their babies’ gender before they were born? If yes why? and If not, then why not?

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Asking for help when Pregnant and After Delivery.

At work or at home, please feel free to ask for help. If you need to carry weights for more than 20 lbs, please check with your doctor for a limit and a note. If you are dealing with morning sickness try to reduce your work timings or change them to more suitable ones. Try to get your work responsibilities changed to less stressful ones if possible.

If you are not able to cook/clean, ask someone from your family to come and help. My mother in law offered to take care of me during my first trimester as my husband was in law school and I think that was the best thing that could have happened! My morning sickness was controlled in a few days after she arrived and I got delicious and healthy home made food I was craving for! Not everyone gets along with their MIL so if you don’t want to call yours that is perfectly fine.

But don’t say no to any kind of help that you can get. If your friends want to do something for you, ask them to bring you fresh food or help you with the groceries or take care of your first child for an hour or two while you catch a nap.

Our subdivision does a MealTrain (http://www.mealtrain.com/) for new moms for almost a month from due date. I think it is the best support you can get when everyone is so busy and tired after the new arrival. My point for this post is REST as much as you can because once the baby is here, you will forget what resting peacefully was!

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Nine months of Anxiety – Solution 2 Prenatal Yoga and Meditation

Nothing more is calming than closing eyes and meditating when you are feeling very vulnerable. If you have never tried yoga and meditation before you can either join local prenatal yoga classes or buy prenatal yoga DVDs and try them out. Remember taking your doctor’s or midwife’s permission is important here. Also remember to do everything at a slow pace and no need to hurry in different yoga postures.

Meditation helps in calming mind, connecting with the baby in the womb, growing confidence in yourself. It is also known to aid in digestion, solve breathing issues and some other health concerns you may have. Prenatal Yoga postures help you stretch your muscles that have been stressed due to your increasing weight and awkward postures.  It helps with sciatica nerve pain, lower back pain, etc. A calm and stress free mind provides baby with a safe environment. The baby feels mother’s stress even in the womb. It affects baby’s emotions and well being. Hence it is very important for a pregnant mother to be in the best moods possible in these nine months. A calm mind will also help you take the right decisions for your baby. It will also positively affect your relationship with your partner who is getting used to a changing you.

So go ahead and take a deep breath and remember Don’t over do it!

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Nine Months of Anxiety – Solution 1 Pregnancy Journals

Whenever I am anxious, writing has really helped me out to clear my mind. Pregnancy is a time when a woman is most anxious about everything. If a routine of journalling your thoughts and feelings is set , it might help you calm down.

Following are a few ideas to write about in your journal

1. Your changing life and your reaction to it including your fears, your anxiety, etc.

2. Your thoughts and ideas that you want to share with your future baby

3. You can track your weight, your growing belly size

4. Your changed feelings towards your partner and how you want to see him as your baby’s father

5. You can take your picture each month and add to the journal (make it in a scrapbook format)

6. You can write down what kind of a mom you want to be for your baby.

7. You can write poems or rhymes

8. You can write anything under the sun and it need not be planned.

The main idea is to let go of your unsettled mind and breathe easily and feel good. So dont stress if you don’t write your journal with perfection. It is just something you can read few years later and feel good about.