Since this is the month of June and we are all waiting eagerly to celebrate Father’s Day, I will try to include more Daddy-related articles this month.
The feeling of baby is so real to a pregnant woman. Being pregnant, we feel the weight of the baby, her movements, his butterfly kicks, heartburns, etc. But for the Dads it is very difficult to develop a bond with the baby until they see it for real. (Dads if you are reading this blog and feel this is untrue please feel free to share your experience). Some might infact find it intimidating to love the baby in mother’s belly because they see what changes it is doing to the human being they love the most. It is a natural instinct and to help them through this process I feel Dads should be involved in the whole pregnancy process from the get go. If they have the time from their busy work schedule, they should be encouraged to attend Doctor appointments so they get to hear the heartbeat of the baby or see the baby move in the ultrasound appointments.They should be encouraged to touch your belly and talk/sing/read to the baby in the belly as it will help them set a routine of spending time with you and baby and eventually a very special bond between the Daddy and baby will be developed.
Hope this small piece of advice helps new moms and dads develop a special bond with their baby that will remain strong forever in the future!
I am posting a list of things I used as a checklist of essentials that I wanted to buy or add to registry in order to prepare for the arrival of the baby. Some things I was gifted at the baby shower before the baby was born but most other things my husband got after the baby was born. It was good to have a list ready for him so all he had to do was take the list and find the item in the store. I am not adding brands yet. I am just adding the different types of items needed. Hope this helps you make your list.
(Our baby slept in the crib till 3 months of age and since then we co-sleep)
- Crib Mattress
- Changing Station/Dresser
(I used the top of the dresser as changing station)
- Changing Pad
- Changing Pad Covers
- Crib Mobile
- Baby Monitor
- Diaper Genie
(love this to keep the smell away even from the garage)
- Laundry Basket
- Crib Bedding Set
- Crib Mobile
- Nursery Decor
- Extra Fitted Crib Sheets
- Car Seat
- Portable Changing Pads
- Diaper Bag
- Window Shades
- Bath Tub
- Baby Soap
- Baby Shampoo
- Baby Moisturizer
- Diaper Cream
- Hooded Towels
- Pajama Sets
- Sleep N Plays
- Sleep Sacks
- Receiving Blankets
- Burp Cloths
- Milk Bottles
- Extra Nipples
- Bottle Warmer
( I did not end up using one)
- Bottle Sanitizer
( I used this extensively and was an awesome gift from a friend)
- Bottle Drying Rack
- Electric Breast Pump
- Milk Storage Bags
- Formula (just in case)
- Pacifier (we never ended up using)
- Bottle Brush
- Nipple Brush
- Boppy Pillow
- Nipple Butter/Cream
- Nursing Cover
- Nursing Tops
- Front Button Tops
- Nursing Bras
Other Nice to Haves for Baby
- Baby Bouncer Seat
- Baby Swing
- Baby Jumperoo
- Baby Floor Mat/Gym
- Baby Floor Mirror
- Baby Teethers
- Baby Soft Books
- Baby Carrier
Drink Lots of Water! Or at least 8 cups of water per day at the minimum. Water helps relieve muscle cramping. It also helps with reducing chances of urine infection which is common during pregnancy. Many pregnant women also have found that drinking water helps with constipation, the dreaded hemorrhoids, gases, etc. I never had swelling on my ankles or legs or any part of my body during pregnancy and I feel it is because I really kept track of how much water I drank during pregnancy. The more water you drink, the less your body will tend to retain.
Even after delivery, it is best to keep drinking enough water , especially if you are breastfeeding as it helps in milk production and prevents you from getting dehydrated.
I thought I would share some pictures and thoughts about my baby shower on this blog before I start writing about baby shower ideas.
My baby shower was planned by my husband and three beautiful friends R, Sa and Sw. I totally couldn’t believe that they would plan all this for me and I love them so much for that. Two of them Sa and Sw flew all the way from East Coast to throw me a party and I think that was the best gift ever. I love my husband for making sure everything that my friends planned fell into place. He also managed to sit through half the party without getting too embarrassed among all the ladies.
My shower was not a surprise as my friends and hubby were not very sure who all to invite. I was new in Las Vegas and was missing all my friends from Raleigh, NC but I still managed to invite 15-20 new friends and colleagues that I had made in this new town. And several of them were present to celebrate our new beginning.
The baby shower venue was chosen to be Verandah at the Four Seasons . The venue was sophisticated yet comforting and beautiful. We had rented a private dining room that seated around 30 people. I was actually invited by my husband and R to choose the menu a couple weeks before the party in order to finalize. I totally loved their Oreo Cheesecake they had for the tasting and was one of the desserts I distinctly remember. It was not something I would otherwise order but I ended up trying it and loved it.
Sa and Sw flew in a day before to prepare for the party decorations. Sw made and decorated a delicious cake for me with a “boy” theme The baby topper was the cutest! The theme for the invitations, balloons and centerpiece decorations was animal theme. The return gifts and the cake were in a “boy” theme. I don’t remember everything we had on the menu but if I find it in my email I will post it on the blog as an update. My friends had planned funny baby shower games for the party like guessing how large my belly was , whose water will break first, guessing whats in the poopy diaper, etc. And there were prizes for correct guesses too!
Towards the end we cut the cake and also opened presents. I must say it was all very overwhelming at the end, everyone was so nice and showered me with wonderful presents for the baby and it made me realize how close I was to giving birth and how my life was going to change soon. But the best part was that I was surrounded with so much love during this time.
Please remember to take right amounts of folic acid along with vitamins during pregnancy. Folic acid is important for bone, blood cells and brain development of the baby and helps minimize birth defects. Infact if any of my readers are wanting to get pregnant, now is the best time to increase your folic acid intake.
Folic acid is found naturally in many vegetarian sources like green leafy vegetables, citrus fruits, legumes and beans. Here is a list of 15 sources of Vitamin B9 found on my internet search :
Your friends may find this difficult to discuss with you or it may not come across their mind to warn you about this when they first hear that you are pregnant. As awkward as it may sound, urinary incontinence is a side effect of pregnancy. It is very important to keep doing Kegels throughout pregnancy. Kegels are exercises for the pelvic floor muscles that can easily be done at home. These helps strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. Strong Pelvic muscles also help during pushing your baby out during delivery. Your doctor/doula or midwife or your yoga instructor can help you show how to do these daily.
Also in order to avoid awkward situations like “peeing in your pants while sneezing or coughing or even vomiting, due to weak pelvic muscles” always carry extra underwear and maybe use pads or panty liners. This tip will surely help in saving you from embarassment in office meetings or other important public places or even at home with guests around.
Pregnancy can give insomnia to some mommies and I know things can be uncomfortable and it might be difficult to sleep but you must sleep and take rest as much as you can. A good night’s sleep will help you feel refreshed for the next day. It may probably help relieving your aches and pains, your acidity and heartburn and other issues you may have. Also once baby comes you might be sleep deprived and you need all the stored energy during the first couple years of the baby/toddler stage.
Some ways to fall asleep that worked for me when I was pregnant were:
1. Read books before sleeping.
2. Watch a very boring movie
3. Write your diary at night. Once you have everything in your head out on paper, you probably will sleep better.
4. Drink a cup of warm/hot milk sometimes with a pinch of turmeric.
5. Get a nice back rub or foot massage from your partner. While getting a foot massage make sure your ankles are not massaged. I am not sure if it is an old wives’ tale but someone told me that there is a point on the ankle which if massaged, can put you in labor. Unless you are past due, then that needs a whole different post 🙂
6. Ask your husband to tell you a story.. i know this sounds stupid but it worked for me so many times.. I used to fall asleep within one or two sentences 🙂
7. Close your eyes and count the sheep!
8. Talk all your worries out with your partner, parents or close friends before sleeping.
9. Listen to soothing music
Please feel free to add to this list in your comments. Hope you all have a good night tonight! If not feeling sleepy yet, try one of the above and tell me if it worked for you!